SACRIFICE OR BALANCE 🌻

           SACRIFICE OR BALANCE?

There is a conversation between #ChandraguptaMaurya and #Chanakya which I always recall about sacrifice. It is the time when Chandragupta starts having feelings for King Dhananda's daughter and he think he is giving up too much to gain too little.Here it goes.

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#चंद्रगुप्त- कभी कभी सोचता हूँ आचार्य कि यदि अखण्ड भारत के सम्राट बनने के लक्ष्य को पाने के लिए इतना भारी मूल ना चुकाना पड़ता तो?

#चाणक्य- साधारण मूल्य चुका कर यदि इतना बड़ा लक्ष्य मिल पाता तो कोई भी अखण्ड भारत का निर्माण कर लेता। फिर ना तो किसी चाणक्य की आवश्यकता होती और ना ही किसी चंद्रगुप्त की।

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Aur iss ek anecdote ne mujhe aur mere jaise bht logo ko sikhaya hai ki hume apne lakshya ke liye sacrifices karne chahiye. Warna koi bhi bada lakshya hum hasil nahi kar skte.

Par sacrifices karne ka matlab kya hota hai? Jo chandragupta ne kiya woh hume bhi karna pade jaruri toh nahi. Hum akhand bharat nhi bana rhe.

Toh ek baat toh clear hai ki sacrifices sabke liye same toh nahi hota hai. Jo jawan border pe desh ki suraksha kar rhe woh apne biwi bacche maa baap toh kya apne jaan tak ki sacrifice kar dete hai par uss level ki sacrifice ko exam me lagana sahi hota hai kya? Kya woh worth it hota hai? Pata nahi yaar. Kyuki exam tumhari jaan ya relationship demand nhi krta , knowledge aur time demand krta hai. Isko manage log bas alag alag tarike se krte hai.

Aur iska bhi koi seedha jawab nahi hai. Kisi ke liye woh ek exam uski zindagi ban jati hai. Woh ek matra raasta reh jata hai aur kuch bhi krke bas woh karna hota hai.

Kya hota hai phir sacrifice karna kisi exam ke liye? Aur uska extent kaise define karte hai?

I have a general definition on it. By sacrifice it simply means "Letting go all those things that comes between you and your preparation."

If you feel, you are short of time.Sacrifice your hours of sleep. If you feel people and relationships distract you, sacrifice those people. If you think partying on weekend with your friends is coming in your way of preparation, deny going. And in sab mein ek baat hai jo dhyan rkhni hai hume that at every point it is "you" who has to judge what to "keep" and what to sacrifice. It is you who has to judge intensity of each situation and take decisions to let go or not. Kabhi blanket ban deny karna acha hota hai aur dost smjhte bhi hai par kabhi maan lo kisi ki life hi uthal puthal ho rhi ho aur tm bas apne me ghuse raho woh tumhe selfish bana deti h. Unko feel kara deti hai ki unki importance hai hi nahi. Bas woh exam hi hai jo hai tumhare liye.

Kabhi kabhi hum mushkil rasta sirf is liye chunte hai, kyu ki humein lagta hai, important cheezein paane ke liye humein mushkil rasta apnana chahiye. Apne aap ko punish karna bahut zaroori samajhte hai. Par jaruri nahi. Tumhe pata hai agar ki tum jab supported feel karte ho toh tum time manage kar loge. Tumhe pata hai agar kisi se 5 min baat krne se tumhe khushi milti hai toh woh preparation me bhi jalakti hai. Padhai koi bhi 24 ke 24 ghante nahi krta.

Ek baat aur mai kehna chahunga. Life sirf tmhari nahi chal rahi hoti jab tm exam ke liye prepare kar rhe hote ho. Hamare saath saath humse jude sabki life chal rhi hoti hai parallel mein. Aur apne goal pe itna ghus jana ki doosre ki life me kya ho rha especially jo matter krte hai usko najarandaz krna selfishness hoti hai. Maano ya naa maano.

Focused hona, dedicated hona achi baatein hai par indifferent hi ho jana sabke prati kisi ek exam ke liye phir life me do hi cheeze laati hai- Sukoon nahi toh void. Aur kabhi kabhi past mein liye gaye decision hum sochte hai exam nikalne ke baad sab wapas theek ho jayega toh yeh bhi sochna galat hai. Uske baad you have to live with it for your whole life. Tumhe okay hai toh tmhara raasta aur decision sahi hai.

Log kehte hai tum jab kuch nahi hote ho toh woh log bhi chhor kar chale jate h jinhe tum importance dete ho. Sahi baat hai. Par yeh bhi toh ki kuch log tab bhi rehte hai. Aur woh log ko kho dena bhari mistake hoti hai. Aaj bhi kisi exam ya interview me acha karke nahi aata toh maa ke pass aa jata hoon. Woh mere sar pe haath rkhti hai aur pata nhi sab theek hota feel hota hai. Isliye apni hierarchies define karo exam ke pehle aur baki bhale hi sab chhor do.

Itna bhi door mat bhaagna ki sab peeche chhut jaye toh tum phir uss akelepan ko sambhal naa pao. Success may be alone but should not be lonely.

Life me kis situation me tum manage and balance kar skte ho, tum har situation wise define karo aur kis points pe sacrifice kr dena is better tm dekho.

Kitna bhi try kr lo bunny, life me kuch toh chhutega hi par har woh chiz chhor dena jiske liye hum itni padhai kr rhe jaruri nahi. Life-long guilt lene se bachna chahiye aur jo tumhare balance ke liye jaruri hai unhe apne pass rakhna chahiye.

#manchu